{"id":761,"date":"2022-09-21T17:00:00","date_gmt":"2022-09-21T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thewritingflow.com\/?p=761"},"modified":"2022-09-22T11:38:24","modified_gmt":"2022-09-22T09:38:24","slug":"a-womans-right-to-morning-pages","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thewritingflow.com\/en\/a-womans-right-to-morning-pages\/","title":{"rendered":"A woman\u2019s right to morning pages"},"content":{"rendered":"
\n\t\t\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

<\/p>\n

Mental load \u2013 that is exactly what it is. It is me thinking three steps ahead, anticipating what others might need in the next minute, hour, day or even longer ahead. My 5-year-old is going to grow out of his hiking shoes soon; I need to order a size up for our summer vacation.<\/p>\n

<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

Then there is the mental load of worrying. When my kids were younger, I often found myself holding my breath or having a knot in my stomach. I was in a constant state of heightened attention, of alert really. I was making sure the kids were not hungry, that they wouldn\u2019t hurt themselves or each other. For me, mental load means living in a state of anticipation.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

My husband is not like that at all. He is so absorbed by the task at hand that he doesn\u2019t notice what is going on around him. A thirsty kid asking him for a glass of water?; he doesn\u2019t notice. A child asking him six times when dinner is ready?; he doesn\u2019t answer. Our place being neat and clean is a high priority for him. I have internalized his need for tidiness and am using every moment between tasks to clean the kitchen.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

That morning when I listened to Amel\u2019s<\/a> voice I was unloading the dishwasher, like most mornings. While my husband spends almost one hour in the morning getting ready, I spend 10 minutes, maximum, on getting showered and dressed. In the remaining 50 minutes I unload the dishwasher, tidy the kitchen, pack lunch for the kids, and read my work emails. Prioritize yourself, Amel says. What I want to do for myself is to sit down and write my morning pages<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

Julia Cameron coined the word and the concept of morning pages:\u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\u201cPages are meant to be, simply, the act of moving the hand across the page and writing down whatever comes to mind. Nothing is too petty, too silly, too stupid, or too weird to be included.\u201d\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tJulia Cameron, The Artist's Way<\/cite>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/blockquote>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

I am a creative writing coach as well as an author, because according to Julia the question is:\u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\"Did you write today? Yes? Then you are an author today\u201d.\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tJulia Cameron<\/cite>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/blockquote>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

Writing my morning pages is part of my business, it makes me a better writer and a better person, for that matter.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Writing whatever comes to my mind in the morning helps me sort through the clouds in my head, helps me dig out issues that I didn\u2019t know bothered me. But they do bother me and if I ignore them, they have the tendency to grow and become blocks down the road. \u201cCan you come down and put a clean tape on my back?\u201d, my husband shouts from the bathroom. \u201cNo, I can\u2019t. You come upstairs\u201d, I reply and continue unloading the dishwasher. Not only am I doing something that is keeping me away from writing, but by going downstairs and back up again it will take me even longer.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

Thank you Amel for that insight and for sharing Susan Hyatt\u2019s<\/a> chili metaphor Instagram post: a woman asks her husband what he needs from the grocery store, and he replies: chili for dinner would be nice. She suddenly has three new tasks besides her grocery list: looking up the ingredients for chili, checking out what\u2019s already in the pantry or fridge, and cooking the chili.\u00a0<\/p>\n

I finish unloading and start filling the dishwasher with the plates from last night. My husband comes upstairs in jeans and a bare top. I put the tape on his back and hand him a fresh smoothie.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Then I go downstairs. My 10 minutes are running\u2026<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\n\t\n<\/svg>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\n\t\n<\/svg>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t

Get your FREE 5-Day writing prompts to begin to explore your inner voice<\/h3>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

You can already start now and experience the benefits of writing just 15 minutes a day! Try out this free writing prompt mini-series where you will receive beautifully crafted daily writing exercises for 5 days. At the end of the week and with just 15 minutes a day, you will have written 5 short texts for your diary and explored the power of writing. And you will have enjoyed getting to know yourself a bit better and figured out what makes your stomach flutter!<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t
\n\t\t\t